What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence involves a continuum of behaviors ranging
from degrading remarks to cruel jokes, economic exploitation, punches
and kicks, false imprisonment, sexual abuse, suffocating actions, maiming
assaults, and homicide. Unchecked, domestic violence usually increases
in frequency and severity.
Many victims suffer all forms of abuse. Verbal and emotional
abuse may be more subtle than physical harm, but this does not mean that
it is less destructive to victims. Many have said that the emotional scars
take much longer to heal than the broken bones.
The first assault inflicted by a batterer usually shocks
the victim. It is hard to believe that a person who proclaims love, devotion
and commitment to you could violate you. About 20% of battered women report
that the first assault by their partner came during pregnancy. Thereafter,
episodes of violence may be infrequent or frequent, prolonged or short-lasted,
severe or mild assaults. Non-violent tactics of control are usually always
coupled with violent conduct. Violent assaults usually increase in frequency
and severity over time. As the batterer's violence progresses, he may
begin to abuse the children and he may direct violence or threats of violence
against friends or extended family. Even those batterers who infrequently
use violence regularly remind their battered partners that non-compliance
with their demands may precipitate violent assaults. |